Seeing all the freshmen move in these last few days has caused me to reflect back on my own freshman year of college. It’s a confusing but exciting time, and I remember how much pressure there was to fit in and look like a super-cool college kid. I also remember how much I totally was NOT a cool kid. I wasn’t the coolest cat around, but I’m just glad I wasn’t “that girl.” I think that’s the most you can ask for freshman year. You’re going to make mistakes (everyone does) but the most you can ask for is to avoid being that guy (or girl) that everyone talks about.
Don’t be that girl who wears booty shorts with crop tops and heels.
It is amazing how many girls come to college and suddenly think that wearing as little as possible and adding heels is “so college.” It isn’t. It’s actually just awful, uncomfortable, and is going to get you all the wrong kinds of attention. It’s fine to dress up for “going out,” but keep it classy. We all know you’re a freshman from a mile away when you dress like that, and quite frankly, it’s just awkward.
Don’t be that guy who is the worst roommate ever.
When I hear crazy roommate nightmares from people, I can’t help but wonder if the crazy roommate actually realized how crazy they were. Remember that you’re living with another person, and you have to respect their space. Your mother is not here with you to clean up your messes. Don’t leave dirty socks everywhere. Don’t blast loud music at 4am. You’re sort of a grownup now, so you should probably act like it.
Don’t be that girl who ONLY studies.
College is full of so many fun opportunities. From clubs and extra-curriculars to potentially a whole new city to explore, there are always fun things to do around campus. Most of the biggest lessons I’ve learned and friends I’ve made have been outside of class. You’re not going to make new friends in a library, and at the end of the day, losing 0.1 on your GPA is worth four years of memories.
Don’t be that guy who is always drunk.
Just don’t. It seems funny at the time (I guess?) but being that guy who pukes on his roommate’s bed or passes out in the dorm hallway isn’t super cool. It just shows that you have no self-control and little self-respect. Feel free to explore the world of college drinking if that’s what you’re into, but know when to stop.
Don’t be that guy who wears a suit to class.
Unless you’re a senior and have job interviews all the time, there is literally no reason to wear a suit to class. You’re not going to look “classy.” You’re just going to look like you take yourself way too seriously.
Don’t be that girl who tries to be everyone’s “friend.”
College is about networking, sure, but it’s also a place to make genuine friends. The phrase that makes me the maddest is a fake “Let’s do lunch sometime!” Be yourself. Don’t try to make friends with the rich people, or the well-connected people, or the cool people. If you do you, you’ll create genuine and meaningful friendships that are far more beneficial than having 1,000 phone numbers of people you don’t actually like.
Don’t be that guy who waits until the last minute to cram for exams.
Seriously, just don’t. Cramming never works as well as you want it to, and even if you do well on the test, you haven’t actually retained any information. This means that as soon as the exam is over, so is your knowledge of British history or whatever the subject may be. Don’t let your money go to waste by taking classes and then absorbing none of the information.
College is an amazing experience. Just make sure to keep calm and skip the high heels. Oh, and make sure to read this post about the do’s and dont’s of college.