I am generally a patient person, but there are some things that people say that just kill me, and my only thought is “I just can’t.” Here are some of those things.
“I haven’t seen my boyfriend/girlfriend for like a week, and it’s been horrible.”
I totally get it. When you’re in love with someone, it’s hard to be away from them. I mean anyone who says this no disrespect, but as someone who’s been in a LDR, I really have trouble having sympathy. I’m sure someone who hasn’t seen their boyfriend for over a year would scoff at my two-month stints, but still. I would be delighted to see Brandon every week during the school year.
“You’re really short.”
Wait, what? I’m actually from an Elvish village where everyone is four feet fall, and I’m a giant. I never realized I wasn’t the same height as normal humans. In all actuality, this doesn’t make me super mad, but it just confuses me. I don’t know why everyone feels the need to tell me this. Yes, I am also blonde. Thank you for sharing.
“…until you have a family someday.”
It’s amazing when you’re a woman how many people are eager to put an expiration date on your career, like I’m going to do this whole “career woman” thing for like five years, then have a family and never return to the work force. If you decide to be a career woman or a stay-at-home mom, either way you’re making a great decision, but I can’t deal with adults who assume I am going to be a stay-at-home mom because that is what women do. I might do that someday, but I might also keep my career. My gender has nothing to do with my decision.
“I quit _______ because I couldn’t get along with ______.”
I feel like this is an excuse people my age love to use. “I quit my job because I couldn’t get along with my boss.” “I quit college because my professors were jerks.” Sometimes these statements have validity, but I feel like people my age sometimes fail to take responsibility for their own actions. There are unpleasant people in life, and how you handle them is within your control. Blaming others’ actions for your own is not an excuse.
“Are you a midget?”
I’ve only gotten this once in my life, but I felt it was worth adding. I don’t really think an explanation is needed of why this makes me SMH.
“She/he should just lose some weight.”
Weight issues are often so much more than meets the eye. Mental and emotional issues, heredity, and other factors can contribute to someone’s weight. For some people, losing weight or maintaining a reasonable weight is about a lot more than just cutting out eating cake. Assuming that weight gain is linked to the person doing something bad or wrong is unfair, and we probably shouldn’t be judging anyway. I’ve had a couple of issues with my own body image in the past, and so this one especially bothers me, especially when it comes from someone who has never had to worry about their weight.
Are there any things people say that you can’t deal with?